In Victory or in Defeat: Humility Always ๐ฅ๐
On September 27, two Brazilian icons โ Acelino โPopรณโ Freitas ๐ฅ and Wanderlei Silva ๐ฅ โ faced off in a boxing match that ended in a brawl between the teams ๐. Iโm not here to judge, but to highlight a lesson: when humility gives way to ego, everyone loses โ ๏ธ.
This post is a shorter version of one I shared in The BJJ Mental Coach Masters Community.
Sport teaches. And Jiu-Jitsu teaches humility from day one ๐ฅ. One day you shine in training or competition ๐; the next, you leave frustrated, even in tears ๐ข. Thatโs the โhumble pill.โ Tough to swallow ๐, but full of lessons ๐.
Recently, I revisited Brenรฉ Brownโs The Gifts of Imperfection ๐. She reminds us that authenticity is a daily practice that demands courage ๐ช, compassion โค๏ธ, and connection ๐ค. Without humility, itโs hard to show up as your best self โ not just as an athlete, but as a human being โจ.
As I shared in a recent post, I havenโt always lived this way. As a purple belt ๐ช, I once refused to step on the podium after losing a final ๐ฅ. Iโve argued with opponents ๐คฌ and even told a crowd to stay quiet after a win ๐. Looking back, those were moments of immaturity and ego.
I like to think of emotional maturity as a spectrum, from 0 to 100 ๐. No one hits 100 โ unless maybe a monk. But each season of life should move us further along ๐. Ask yourself: where were you at 18? ๐ค And where are you now?
Humility is what helps you grow on that spectrum ๐ฑ. Itโs what allows you to accept losses ๐, practice self-compassion instead of self-criticism ๐ฌ๐, and extend compassion to your opponents ๐ โ who, just like you, carry their dreams ๐ฏ and sacrifices ๐ฅ.
The Popรณ vs. Wanderlei episode is a reminder: ego can erupt at any level ๐จ. But martial arts call us higher โ to see wins and losses as temporary โณ and to embrace humility as the golden thread ๐งต that keeps you authentic, on and off the mats.
๐ In victory or in defeat: humility always ๐ฅ๐
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Na Vitรณria ou na Derrota: Humildade Sempre ๐ฅ๐
No dia 27 de setembro, dois รญdolos brasileiros โ Acelino โPopรณโ Freitas ๐ฅ e Wanderlei Silva ๐ฅ โ fizeram uma luta de boxe que terminou em pancadaria entre as equipes ๐. Nรฃo estou aqui para julgar, mas para destacar uma liรงรฃo: quando a humildade dรก lugar ao ego, todos perdem โ ๏ธ.
Esse post รฉ uma versรฃo reduzida para o Instagram de um post que fiz na comunidade Masters The BJJ Mental Coach.
O esporte ensina, e o Jiu-Jitsu ensina humildade desde o primeiro dia ๐ฅ. Um dia vocรช brilha no treino ou no campeonato ๐; no outro, sai frustrado, atรฉ em lรกgrimas ๐ข. Esse รฉ o โcomprimido da humildadeโ. Difรญcil de engolir ๐, mas cheio de aprendizado ๐.
Recentemente, revisitei o livro A Arte da Imperfeiรงรฃo, da Brenรฉ Brown ๐. Ela lembra que autenticidade รฉ prรกtica diรกria que exige coragem ๐ช, compaixรฃo โค๏ธ e conexรฃo ๐ค. Sem humildade, fica difรญcil ser a sua melhor versรฃo nรฃo necessariamente como atleta, mas como ser humanoโจ.
Como mencionei em um post recente, Nem sempre vivi dessa forma. Como faixa roxa ๐ช, recusei subir no pรณdio apรณs perder uma final ๐ฅ, jรก discuti com adversรกrios ๐คฌ e atรฉ mandei torcida ficar quieta depois de vencer ๐. Hoje vejo: eram momentos de imaturidade e ego.
Gosto de pensar em maturidade emocional como um espectro de 0 a 100 ๐. Ninguรฉm chega ao 100, mas a cada fase da vida podemos evoluir ๐. Pergunte a si mesmo: em que nรญvel vocรช estava aos 18? ๐ค E agora?
Humildade รฉ o que nos faz crescer nesse espectro ๐ฑ. ร o que permite aceitar derrotas ๐, praticar autocompaixรฃo em vez de crรญtica ๐ฌ๐ e ter compaixรฃo pelo oponente ๐ โ que, assim como vocรช, tambรฉm tem sonhos ๐ฏ e sacrifรญcios ๐ฅ.
O episรณdio com Popรณ e Wanderlei mostra que o ego pode aparecer em qualquer nรญvel ๐จ. Mas as artes marciais nos lembram que vitรณrias e derrotas sรฃo passageiras โณ. A humildade รฉ o fio condutor ๐งต que mantรฉm vocรช autรชntico, dentro e fora dos tatames.
๐ Na vitรณria ou na derrota: humildade sempre ๐ฅ๐. #thebjjmentalcoach #ibjjf #authenticity #jiujitsumindset #bjjmindset #bjjlife
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